It All Starts in the Waiting Room, and It’s a Wrap with Your Doctor

By: Traci Patterson, CH, CI – Owner and Founder, Advanced Pathways Hypnosis


If you or a loved one has ever been diagnosed with a chronic pain condition, CRPS, cancer, PTSD or any other debilitating condition, this will hit home as you’ve been there. Where is ‘there’, you ask? The doctor’s office to obtain verification of a diagnosis, to gather information, and hopefully gain the answers you are seeking. What most people don’t realize is that initial time in the waiting room is starting to set the stage for what is to come. The thoughts that are whirling and twirling through your head all while sitting there in those uncomfortable chairs. The body language of those sitting around you is dreary, gloomy, and everything but uplifting. Starting to sound familiar? And these are just the uncomfortable feelings even before you get to see the doctor. What most people don’t realize is all of these uncomfortable feelings and emotions are setting the stage and putting us in a place where we are more vulnerable. We are in a place physically and mentally where anything that is said to us is taken very literally, and can either help us or hinder us.

You’re finally called back to ‘the room’, or the examination room. It is cold, sterile and very unwelcoming. After a few questions and the typical vital signs, the wait continues. Stress levels are increasing, anxiety is starting to settle in, and you are on the edge of your seat not knowing what to expect.

The doctor finally arrives. You get a quick handshake, if you’re lucky, and then it is down to business. During this time, what the doctor says, how they treat you, their mannerisms, whether they actually examine you or dismiss you, and their words, set the stage for how well you will fare. Patients that are dismissed, not examined, and/or are talked down to, tend to walk away feeling degraded and hopeless. The words that are spoken to a patient at a vulnerable time are key to their success or failure in their future.

Many patients with chronic pain, CRPS, cancer, PTSD, and other debilitating illnesses end up hearing negative statistics during their doctor’s visits. They are told things like, “This is probably the worst case I have seen,” or “You are one of my most complicated patients,” or “I’m sorry, but I don’t think we have anything else to offer you.” All of these negative comments set the stage and start the patient(s) down the path to future failures.

I am not here to bash physicians or Traditional Medicine. What I am here to state is how the information, the way it is presented to a patient, and the tone in how it is said, affects their outcome. As a whole, the healthcare industry needs to do a better job teaching practitioners to communicate effectively with their patients, to make sure that all of their options are on the table, and to keep an open mind about alternative solutions.

Patients and their loved ones are searching for answers. They are holding onto hope that they will find a way to get better. They are trying to find a doctor or practitioner that will provide solid answers and solutions to help them get better. I understand there are times that traditional therapies and treatments may not be enough to help heal someone or get them into remission, but that is the time for the treating physician to be open to looking outside of the box in order to help find a solution, or perhaps encourage the patient to do so. No one treatment will work for everyone. Thus, it is very important that patients have access to information on all treatment options available.

I think I can talk about this as I have been there as a patient diagnosed with CRPS and now as a loved one of someone diagnosed with cancer. I have learned through all of these experiences that the power of suggestion at the times when we are most vulnerable can determine our outcome if we allow it. Just know there are always options out there.

Never give up hope!